Being a Single Mum and Dealing with the Grief of
Empty Nest Syndrome
This article talks about the pain and identity crises single women go through when our kids are leaving home and how do to deal with this challenging time. It is important for women to understand this is not the end – this is the beginning of a new chapter in our lives, the beginning of freedom.
Empty nest syndrome can be a difficult time for parents, but is especially difficult for single women, as their complete focus was on their children.
Raising the kids on your own is a full time job, even with a partner. But doing it on your own is more than a full time job. You give it all you have and more. If you are like most women you have been going to work at the same time. Life is extremely busy and there is little time for yourself. And yes as the kids grow up there is more time, but somehow this seems to be a time of catching up. Catching up with all the jobs that didn’t get done, catching up with having a little bit more rest and catching up with friends that have been neglected for so long.
Then suddenly the kids are leaving, you are looking forward to it and you dreading it! Of course you understand that they have to leave at some stage and live their own life. And you want them to do so! But that does not diminish the pain! And it does not solve the identity crisis you are going through – the crisis of not being needed anymore. You have given it all you have for so long, have neglected yourself, have made sure everybody else had what they needed and now you are not needed anymore. And that hurts. You have forgotten who you are and what you want. So how do you deal with all this?
To be continued
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