What is Self Sabotage?
We all know the situation, we want to achieve something really badly, but somehow we just can’t get there. We find all sorts of logical reasons why we can’t….. why it’s not working…… and these reasons sound really good to us. And -for the moment- they work really well for us too….because they keep us in our comfort zone. But ultimately we feel stressed, because we are not moving closer to what we want.
It’s like when you get offered the perfect job, but then you feel you do not have the appropriate skills or you live too far away, or it will be too stressful and so on.
This can be a situation in regards to your personal life, in regards to your health or in regards to your business.
This is a situation of self-sabotage! So what causes us to act like this?
The answer is in our negative and limiting self beliefs. We all have beliefs like: I am not good enough, I can’t do this, I can’t succeed, I am not worthy to make good money, I am not good at technical stuff and so on. These beliefs are stored in the part of our brain called the sub conscious mind. They are like blocks in our brain and get us to act in certain ways, ensuring that we stay within our limitations, ensuring that everything we do keeps us safe and in our “comfort zone”.
These beliefs are like self fulfilling prophecies. Hence the saying:
“Whether You Think You Can or Can’t, You’re Right Either Way”–Henry Ford
Self sabotage is a situation where we come across an opportunity to have or work towards what we are looking for, but for some reason we are not quite ready YET to go for it, therefore we act like a horse with blinkers on, we only see what we are “able” to see within our limiting beliefs, we don’t “see” the whole story.
What is going on in our mind? Our mind is receiving 2 million bits of information every second. Out of those 2 million bits, we take 7 bits of information on! These 7 bits we then distort, generalize and deconstruct, to ensure they fit our “roundabout” of limiting beliefs!
So how do we get out of this “roundabout”? Awareness is certainly very useful. And when we have been in the “roundabout” for long enough, we sometimes do realise that we have just done it again. For some people it seems to be easier to move out of this “roundabout” and move forward, than for others. This depends on what limiting beliefs we hold and the intensity of those beliefs. Many of these beliefs were created in our childhood. Generally speaking, someone who grew up in a dysfunctional family would hold more limiting and negative self beliefs, than someone who grew up in a loving and supportive family.
Of course the question arises, what can we do about those negative and limiting self beliefs?
I use EFT, Emotionally Freedom Tapping, to release these negative and limiting beliefs in my personal life and in my work, with startling results.
EFT is a gentle tapping with 2 fingers on certain acupuncture points in face and upper body, while talking about the issue on hand. This combination of the 2000 year old meridian system and modern psychology is widely used these days, with absolutely stunning results. When tapping we are sending a calming message to your Amyglada, the part in your brain that is responsible for decision making and emotional reactions!
Tapping away your negative and limiting self beliefs and bringing in new beliefs that are filled with confidence, clarity and self empowerment will propel you forward and support your journey of achieving what you want and getting where you want to be. Releasing the old beliefs allows us to come to a point of confidence where we are certain that we can and will achieve all our goals. A point where we understand the saying:
“Whatever the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can achieve.” Napoleon Hill
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