Stress and 50+ Professional Women
Being a professional women in your fifties can be very challenging. Firstly, you got all the stresses of work to deal with, secondly you got the 50+ stress to deal with and between the 2 of them life can be stressful.
Let me explain – but if you are in that situation there is very little to explain, you are feeling it allright!
So maybe I should use the word clarify instead? Let’s clarify stress –
stress at work. If you have a huge work schedule and you struggle to get everything done in a certain time frame, there is usually a feeling of not being in control.
That feeling often comes hand in hand with anxiety, which brings up doubts of one self, questions like am I good enough, can I do this right, can I get it right, or similar suddenly pop up. These self doubts then slow you down and make you less efficient, which then increases your stress level even more!
The definition for stress is: Emotionally stretched, strain, pressure, tension, nervousness, worry, anxiety, trouble, difficulty, distress, trauma, suffering, pain, grief, hassle.
Stress causes the adrenal glands to produce adrenalin. Now in long term stress the adrenal glands don’t get to relax, so they keep pumping out adrenalin and eventually they will be depleted. You will experience adrenal fatigue – meaning exhaustion! But it also will increase your menopausal symptoms like hot flushes, night sweats and so on, which in turn will cause more anxiety and insomnia, and more stress… Stress will also deplete the kidneys (in acupuncture terms – my background is acupuncture). What does that mean? You will experience more exhaustion, grumpiness, lack of concentration, decreased alertness, sugar cravings which leads to weight gain, coffee cravings and so on…… Can you see the vicious circle you are in?
You do know the consequences of long term stress? Heart problems, palpitations, anxiety, insomnia, diabetes, weight gain, digestive problems and much more, but also more WRINKLES!! Seriously, the whole body is affected by stress; every single organ is suffering….. and is coming out of balance…… how can you possibly be feeling good????
That’s just the stress in itself!
Next we have the 50+ stress – I have counted 10 major stresses most 50+ women are dealing with:
1. Decline in our strength, health and energy levels
2. Decline in our youthfulness, decline in attractiveness
3. Menopause with it’s list of issues
4. Teenage children
5. Empty Nest (or children not moving out!)
6. Parents and/or in laws in need of more support
7. Loss of loved ones
8. Fear of future
9. Struggle with technology
10. Financial concerns about our future
On top of these ten challenges, there are often relationship stresses and/or financial stress so much more.
Did you know that 50+ women experience more stress than any other age group? Can you now see why?
When looking at all these issues we are dealing with I am not surprised at all, that 50+ women are stressed! But what is underneath all this stress is the lack of trust in ourselves. What do I mean when I say that?
See, we can’t turn life off, things will happen, stress will happen. But if we are feeling strong, solid and confident on a very deep level, we will not get so “worked-up” when things happen. We will trust that we will do our absolute best and that’s all we humanly can do. We will trust in that knowledge.
But many of us are only confident on the very surface, right? See when we are stressed, it brings up very old emotions, because stress is a “fight ‘n flight response”, which is a very deep seated automatic reaction that is happening in our body. This “fight ‘n flight response” is triggered by fear and once we are diving into the fear pot, it doesn’t stop there, our sub conscious digs all the other fears out too. And these fears of not being good enough, or not getting it right, are right there. They are old belief systems we have created in our childhood. Often we are not aware of them. However, some do pop in our conscious mind more often and if we pay attention we will become aware of them.
So what to do? There are ways of identifying and releasing these belief systems. Once they are released and out of your system, you will find an amazing lightness and relief.
EFT is a great tool to release these belief systems, as well as old traumas, memories and thought patterns. Once you have released these beliefs, thoughts, traumas and memories and they are out of your system, you will find a huge relief and you will find that suddenly, things don’t stress you out anymore. Suddenly, you feel all calm and cool! And you will stay in that calmness and with that your life will change dramatically. This ability to stay calm and centred -to me- is one of the most precious gifts ever.
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